Alexa Ahrem
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Lessons With Lex Relationships

The Disconnect Between Knowing What You Want and Getting the Opposite

There was a period in my [romantic/love] life where I tried to get love from those who seemed

August 28, 2019
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Relationships

How to Consciously Attract Your Ideal Partner & Relationship

Conscious creation, intention setting, goal setting. I’m sure you have all heard about at least one of these

September 29, 2018
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Alexa is an entrepreneur, writer, podcaster, and energy activator who is on a mission is to realize her deepest desires, overcome her greatest challenges, and to help others to do the same.

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The ULTIMATE ego death and one of the hardest lessons to face, learn and integrate.
It’s gotten to the point where most days, I literally cannot stand to be working inside. Thank the lawd for Florida and a swimming pool in your backyard. #worthit 🏝
I wonder, can we become okay with cleaning up others mistakes versus needing to expend energy doing everything possible to ensure others know it wasn’t our mistake in order to serve our ego? Can we be okay with that Instead of going to the ends of the earth to ensure we arent seen paying for a mistake we didn’t make? I’m not talking about the big huge criminal-esque mistakes, I’m talking about the covert ones that we know we have also made at one time or another. Can we become okay with this? I’ve Been exploring ways to decrease combativeness and dropping the need to prove who’s wrong and who’s right; who’s at fault and who’s not. I so badly want to be seen and understood in in those instances as the one who didn’t fuck up. But that creates division. We can request the persons involvement to rectify but forcing them to own up to something will never happen in a way that creates positive forward momentum. It may appease our need in the mean time while pushing others away always. How okay can we become with cleaning up the mistakes others have made knowing we have made the same ones before, and knowing someone else had to clean that one up? Is this weak or is this dropping useless hypocritical defensiveness for the sake of acknowledging ours and others humanity?
If you are an activist and actually want to be effective, versus just getting off on bashing, shaming, judging, and calling others out, then try to bring a flavor of detachment, objectivity, and non-judgement to your experiences. And especially leave the expectations at the door. Truth is, the minute your energy seeps judgement, expectations, criticism, and better-than-ness while being an “activist” you’ve already lost the person and contributed to even more pain, hatred, and separation on the planet. If you are truly a heart- centered activist and not a shame activist, be passionate and speak up, but definitely don’t expect others to fight your fight.. especially with ya Judge Judy attitude. And when that person feels your attacking, judgmental, critical, shitty energy, take responsibility for it and how you brought that to the table, instead if calling them “fragile”. And then go look in the mirror and consider the shadow work and healing that may need to be done to truly be effective. Activism is not an excuse to contribute to more pain, hate, and separation. You’re better off at that point pausing your activism and doing the inner shadow work to heal from the inside- out. /fire Ps, you can trust this message because I’ve been judge judy, and all it did was lose me my chance to save the cat because I was too busy fuming at its owner for wanting to give it away in the first place. 🐈
#ChallengeAccepted from @mishkasilbz - TBH I am not a fan of mass social media challenges, but I couldn’t pass this up. I am honored to serve the mission of @flourishingfemininefounders alongside you and invite others into healthier, vibrant ways of being and building. Much love to all the women doing the work to integrate their feminine nature and soften up, and inviting others into that possibility as well. More self trust, more trusting other women, more peace!
The ocean is the answer. 🌊
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