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Lessons With Lex Relationships

The Disconnect Between Knowing What You Want and Getting the Opposite

There was a period in my [romantic/love] life where I tried to get love from those who seemed

August 28, 2019
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Relationships

How to Consciously Attract Your Ideal Partner & Relationship

Conscious creation, intention setting, goal setting. I’m sure you have all heard about at least one of these

September 29, 2018
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Alexa is an entrepreneur, writer, podcaster, and energy activator who is on a mission is to realize her deepest desires, overcome her greatest challenges, and to help others to do the same.

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(continued from last post) ⠀ I hear about many well-meaning people with unique and impactful viewpoints stay silent out of fear of political correctness and being misunderstood. . ⠀ If you spend your whole life talking *around* things out of fear, you’ll be talking to nobody. I speak from experience of massive pussy footing around issues, especially when the viewpoint is STRONG and I can TASTE the blowback. It’s easier to just be quiet.. ⠀ I want to see heart-centered people speaking their unique truths, because they are truly you-nique and we need it more than ever, your beautifully original and necessary standpoint, to raise the frequency of the planet as she ascends higher. For the frequency of your message to be felt in the physical. ⠀ DM me if you find it hard to speak your truth out of fear of retribution, let’s talk about it 💜
The Language we use is LIMITED!!! ⠀ When we say something, we can’t say ALL things at once. ⠀ When someone else says something, we can’t possibly expect them to say and tend to all possibilities with that one thing they say. ⠀ We can’t live our lives with disclaimers and trigger warnings all over everything, out of fear of being misunderstood. ⠀ And we can’t expect others to speak and write and talk in a way that tends to every viewpoint at any given time. If we expect that, we might as well all keep our mouths shut. ⠀ Each individual has a unique message and way of using language to express that message. It may not be how YOU would express it, but that’s perfectly okay. Because they likely aren’t meant to reach the same people as you. ⠀ Before attacking someone for not being politically correct and addressing the infinitie amount of potential angles before expressing a viewpoint, ask yourself, is this rebuttal necessary? ⠀ Is their HEART in the right place? ⠀ Can you discern if they are speaking with love or with fear? With hate or with kindness? ⠀ Free speech isn’t truly free if we can’t speak freely while engaging in expression and conversation without attacking, getting defensive, or judging the language someone uses. ⠀ Our language is so incredibly limited, but we are limited to the words we have when speaking. ⠀ There would be much less pain if people could stop making it their business to judge the words of another, and see through to the meaning and heart. ⠀ Also, if you go over to someone’s page and comment that they ‘should’ address something else or take a different stance, chances are, YOU are the one that ‘should’ be speaking out on that opinion!! ⠀ It’s YOUR viewpoint, so address it, speak UP! Don’t hide and then go over to someone else’s page and tell THEM what to say, especially if you aren’t speaking up and speaking out yourself! ⠀ And if you are speaking that viewpoint, save yourself the trouble of expecting others to change their viewpoint to identically match your viewpoint. We’re not clones, we are unique. ⠀ POINT- of- VIEWS We view things from different vantage POINTS. And therefore have different LANGUAGE to deliver the message. ⠀ 💜💛 ⠀
1/2. Swipe👉🏽 Living an epic as fuck life = don’t let your DREAMS stay dreams. ⠀ You must Listen to your dreams, trust your dream, be willing to recreate your dream, ACT on your dream & commit to your dream becoming REAL no matter how long it takes to come to fruition, and adapt to a new and improved dream when you are being invited to! ⠀ The week has come, I am moving out of Philly after 12 epic years here!! ⠀ It took FOUR years for this move to come to fruition. ⠀ At first I was moving because I was running away, then I wasn’t ready, then I was scared, and then I forgot about it. ⠀ First it was Colorado, and then it was Cali..and now it’s..St. Pete. 🏝 ⠀ Wanted to share this 12 year journey as an ode to my time to Philly. I’ve lived multiple lives here. It made me. It broke me. It woke me. And I’ll always have a lil’ bitta the hood inside me. ⠀ These 12 pictures/and 4400 characters could NEVER express these 12 years. I was OCD’ing to the max about what pics to choose and what to say🥵 ⠀ Common themes looking back: • every facebook post was a rap lyric. • every fb photo album was the title of a rap song • wow am i gemini ♊️ as fuck. • holy hell i have lived many lives, been through hell, heaven and back many times ⠀ 0️⃣8️⃣: leave connecticut & enter @templeuniv on gymnastics team as entrepreneurship major ⠀ 0️⃣9️⃣: quit 18 year gymnastics career after shoulder surgery & focused my efforts to entrepreneurship ⠀ 1️⃣0️⃣: first chick on board of @templeesa & dont remember much else because..i worked hard and played HARD ⠀ 1️⃣1️⃣: landed my First consulting gig to help a biz owner open a restaurant, interned for @unitedbyblue. Attended my FIRST RAVE and took MDMA for the first time. #Lifechanged forever #duh #raverlife #plur ⠀ 1️⃣2️⃣: Graduated, then went to work as a server and doing catering. Later Launched a Dance music production company (now @subsurfacepresents ), adopted My soul shaman kitties, embarked on my awakening/healing journey ⠀ 1️⃣3️⃣: built my first biz while nannying by day & catering by night, was an inaugural Winner of the skylight grant for women in dance music. Spoke on a panel in Vegas and was mentored by the rave godfather @realdiscodonnie
When it comes to shedding the 💩 that holds you back From living your most epic life, we gotta talk about La Familia. ⠀ Those of us that come from tumultuous upbringings have to do work to re-write and heal that for ourselves. ⠀ And with this healing comes the ever-evolving dance of how we relate to our families. ⠀ You setting a standard for yourself can set a new standard for your family in the way they show up for you. ⠀ “You teach people how to treat you”. This goes for your family as well. ⠀ 👂🏽Listen to me when I tell you, this: Setting your standards for how you interact with your earthbound family is not mean, cold-hearted, or selfish. ⠀ In fact, it’s the most selfless thing you could ever do for yourself, your entire living bloodline, and the ancestors that came before. ⠀ ✍🏽 To be the courageous one to re-write the script of the bloodline and begin the process of healing ancestral trauma the has been passed down for generations. ⠀ Someone had to step out, and that someone is you.. ⠀ Yes, you. If you are reading this and this struck a cord, or speaks to something inside you: You’re the chosen one. It takes just one within the family to decide to do this work that sparks a massive multi-generational mutation. ⠀ This is your confirmation and your permission. ⠀ It is absolutely the hard thing to do, but it is the correct one. It helps your family, even if they can’t see it, never see it, or choose not to see it. ⠀ But in some way down the line, they will at least feel how it’s an invitation into healing for everyone, versus perpetuating the same ancestral patterns through the generations. ⠀ I had to go through this with my family, but our relationship is much healthier & solid than ever. ⠀ ✈️ However, you can’t get there without going through the turbulence of committing to something BETTER, and choosing to stick with that no matter how hard. There’s a lot that has to rearrange out of that place. ⠀ Some tips: ⠀ ⚡️Acknowledge playing into the same family pattens WILL hold you back from your epic life. ⚡️Choose to commit to your epic life. ⚡️ Get support to navigate the specificities of healthy boundary- setting for your unique situation. 👇🏽CONTINUED BELOW👇🏽
I will be relaying to you what I call Epic Activations. ⠀ These Epic Activations - aka ENERGY ACTIVATIONS - are seeds straight from source to wake-up something dormant lying with you. ⠀ These activations are invitations - whether you like it or not - calling you into a higher expression of your truest self and unique soul imprint… Demanding that you step out of the bullshit and into your brilliance. ⠀ My intention is to bypass your mind and activate deep levels of consciousness. These activations are designed to pierce deep to the truth that already lies deep within you. ⠀ Energy activations are seeds that get planted and activate a particle of DNA that leads to a cellular change over a time - a change you eventually see IRL…usually somewhere down the line, in a very subtle way. ⠀ ⚡️ You can ignore these activations, but eventually you will be called to face the truth. ⠀ ⚡️ You may try hard to forcefully integrate them, but you will eventually have to let it go, stop trying, and trust the unfolding. ⠀ 🌀Breathe these in. Swirl them around your consciousness, and let the energy do its work. ⠀ Even if you mindlessly scroll right pass them, I trust the seed has still been planted. ⠀ The question is…do you have what it takes to really look?
Mentally ill or extremely gifted? ⠀ Man, don’t get me started on this. Or wait, maybe i should get started… ⠀ I’ve been officially and self- “diagnosed” with: ⠀ • OCD • Anxiety • Depression • Borderline Personality Disorder ⠀ But i ALWAYS knew there was more to these “labels”. ⠀ That I wasn’t fuckin’ broken! I held that deep sense of ‘there’s more to me’ here. The connection to my spirituality and deeper parts of me that were faint, but present…covered up by gunk and confusion. ⠀ Here’s what I say: ⠀ REFRAME the meaning of your damn “diagnosis”. ⠀ OCD = I have high standards. ⠀ Anxiety= I am out of alignment, doing too much, and getting worked up over the details. ⠀ Depression = I am disconnected from my life force source, and everything going on feels really heavy. Things are falling apart and I feel scared and unable to connect to the higher frequency I am being invited into. ⠀ Borderline Personality= I am a highly sensitive person that SEES, HEARS, and FEELS everything: All of the energies at play. And sometimes i confuse those energies as my own when they really belong to someone else; a client, the collective, a friend. ⠀ Mental “diagnoses” are vantage points for you to understand yourself at a deeper level, not get obsessed over and forever buy into. ⠀ 🐇 But I’ve been there. I have gone on rabbit hole spirals on youtube of people talking about their “BPD” only to wake up and realize all I see are people deeply confused and misinformed about the gifts they have come to believe are curses. ⠀ And trust me, I know what these “curses” feel like. The pain. But i also don’t buy into perpetuating that story for myself. ⠀ Your sensitivity is a muthafuckin superpower! But until you harness it, you implode on yourself. ⠀ 💡 This episode holds the codes for you to start seeing yourself in a different light. ⠀ I got to riff with my incredible coach and teacher @NatalieEhmka on “understanding and accepting the human experience” — I believe there’s so much turmoil in the world because so many humans are disconnected from what it actually means to be a fucking human. ⠀ We broke zoom a few times with this one, so go listen and start THINKING DIFFERENTLY. 👆🏽Link in bio.
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